Having a problem is not pretty, especially when conducted in your home environment. Tell me, which I've experienced so many fights. Especially if you are a vs your parents. In fact, many of the problems start long before they actually happen. You fear your reaction, what you say. So you feel misunderstood, cry, cry, talk to your best friend in search of comfort and you sink into a sea of \u200b\u200bquestions and possible counter imaginary- a priori - and machine:
"I will say that I am an irresponsible."
"I scream and punished for life, this does not save me."
"I scream and punished for life, this does not save me."
"Surely I kicked out of the house without even hearing my version
" They will never accept. "
"They do not agree."
"They say it's my fault."
Armed with that vest assumptions, continue living your personal martyrdom, until they explode. Unannounced explosion, angry, full of all that mental TNT. What follows, you know.
All this could have been avoided if you had only spoken to them since the dilemma or problem appeared in your life. Before you feel lonely, before exploding.
probably think that it does not work with you or your parents, because they do not know or want to hear. You are wrong, in principle, because once again you are assuming something that has not happened. If you have experienced anything like this before, do not assume that your reaction be the same this time. Remember that human beings are constantly changing and there is no fixed reaction. Only we still speak, say what we are concerned, what bothers us, what we lose sleep. When you view the relationship with our parents to form vertical and a Alferes see a colonel, we forget that they are as human as we who were once young like us and who, perhaps, have gone through our own " problems, "he just never dared to tell us.
Either form of a question, questioning, curiosity, etc. talk to your mom and dad before you arm yourself for self-destructive thoughts that exist only in your head. Yes, I know that it is sometimes difficult to get away from them but remember they are only in your head. Up that these assumptions yours stay in their own mouths, are just that: assumptions. Some specific ideas we develop as a self-protective mechanism to fear the risk.
own experience, I can tell you that many times parents may react in ways completely unexpected and help a lot, but their words do not have the form of a self-help book. It is not easy being hij @ but it's not easy being a parent.
If you are blessed with some of them or someone, which in turn, it means for you, fear not, do not run. If the answer is positive or negative, you'll never know until you talk with them. Try it, it's worth.
Greetings.
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